Read on May 18th, 2015.
After two years of only reading the Bible, I decided to read what I wanted to read and not necessarily what was on the list. However, none of the books that I wanted were at the library, so I picked this one up instead. It's a good thing I did; it's a wonderful book.
It's about a Chinese-American family in the 1970s. The middle daughter is found dead in the lake nearby. The rest of the family, the parents and two other children, struggle to find a way to cope with the loss of their beloved family member along with the mystery of why she was out on the lake in the middle of the night in the first place. Half of the family suspects homicide, the other suicide. Each family member has a piece of knowledge that could fit the puzzle together, but rifts in the family appear as they fail to communicate. Not only do they find that their understanding of who she really was was minimal, they discover that such is the case for the rest of their living family.
As a very realistic portrayal of the modern family, Everything I Never Told You left me with strong feelings about communicating with others. I can't help but examine my relationships with other people. Near the end of the book, each family member, parents and siblings alike, realize a hole in their relationship that drove their daughter/sister over the edge. It hurt to read about each of them feeling such loneliness when, in an ideal world, they at least had each other. The characters are so different from each other and their relationships are so complex. As in any family, explaining the association of one to another in its totality is a feat. But the author makes it so easy for the reader to understand what that relationship entails: why he/she acted that way, what he/she was thinking, what he/she felt, what memories emerged in response to something that was said. Throughout the book all I could think was how everything would be better and less stressed had they been comfortable with talking and expressing what they feel. But that wouldn't be very realistic, would it now?
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